I have worked for this family for about 9 months, it is a 2.5 y/o little girl. She is constantly spoiled and given whatever she wants whenever she wants it. I have tried so very hard to be patient with the toddler, as I know that children lead by example and push their boundaries only as far as they know to push them. Her parents were not forthcoming about their disciplinary plans when I interviewed for the job. Basically their philosophy is zero discipline. They don't believe in timeouts, raising your voice, taking away privileges, etc.
I'm new here, and hoping to find some good advice. I've been a nanny for almost 5 years now, and a casual sitter 4 years before that. That said, I just started a new job, and I've never encountered a child so underdeveloped at the age of 4 as one of my new nanny kids. She doesn't speak in very complex sentences, usually three or four word groups. She also has severe trouble following multi-step instructions, and forming her own individual thoughts. It's becoming a real issue with discipline.
I am new to this group, I hope I have found a place where I can get some answers! :)
I'm a recent college grad nanny to a three girls ages 6, 4, and 2. Discipline is always a timeout followed by a brief discussion about why the behavior made them end up in timeout. This works very well for my 6 year old, but the 4 year old always SCREAMS non stop whenever I give her timeout. She will literally be sitting in the corner howling for the entire 4 minutes and won't stop no matter how many times I tell her she needs to stop screaming. If the 2 year old is napping while I put her in timeout, she will wake the 2 year old up and the screaming doubles.
I'm currently the nanny to two little girls, 5 year old M and 2 year old K. My problem is with M. Lately, she has been back talking, not listening, ignoring both me and her sister, and telling me that she doesn't have to listen to me because I'm not the boss of her. I know this is pretty typical 5 year old behavior, but it has definitely gotten worse lately. Today at the pool I had to ask her at least 5 times to get out of the water because it was time to go before she finally got out and dried off. (I did give her a 5 minute warning before we had to leave).