Anxiety over quitting

Looking for advice (or someone to tell me it’s ok really!) I am a part time nanny (approx 22 hours per week). I have been with them for about 6 months. I have two school aged children of my own, and nanny for three kids. My husband is a full time student and schedules his classes around my nanny schedule so he can be with our kids on the days I work. This semester, he is taking all night classes and was just offered a full time day time position. Which means I have to quit my nanny job. This is actually totally fine by me because I feel very under appreciated and under paid at this job, but took it because the NF and I have a mutual friend. This is where my anxiety is coming in. I can give a three week notice, but I know the mom will still be very upset. If we didn’t have a mutual friend I’d feel less worried. I have no contract (my own fault 100%). Is three weeks enough? My husband taking this job is what is what best for our family so I shouldn’t feel guilt but I do. I’ve never quit a job before, I hate confrontation, but I know I need to give her my notice soon.

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The longer you wait the harder and more upset she'll most likely be. Be upfront with her and tell her about the change in your husband's schedule. Tell her exactly what you said here. She will probably be understanding! We tend to build things up in our heads, when in reality it won't be as bad as we think. Tell her soon, tell her in person, and be as polite as possible. If you think she'll be upset you can offer to help her find a replacement but that's ultimately up to you. Anxiety is awful and I can understand where you are coming from. Just control the things you can (when you tell her, how you tell her) and don't worry about the rest!

I can relate to this 100%!! At the end of the day you need to do what’s best for you and your family! As for the time i would Give a month or more if possible, in my contract i have To give at least two months notice. Just explain to her your situation and hopefully she’ll understand and if she dosnt then that’s too bad. You got this!

The sooner you give her the notice the better. She will
Appreciate as much time as you can give her to make arrangements for her kids.
As far as quitting there’s a first time for everything and you need to do what’s best for your family. Also let her know you if you can help new caregiver with pointers or help out if she gets stuck just exit on a super friendly note.
I should have said this in the beginning your HUSBAND sounds like an amazing man!!! Don’t worry about her family keep your priorities where they should be with your family!!