I have worked for this family for 6 months and i cant handle it! there are 2 boys, 8 years and 11 years. The 8 year old acts like a 4 year old!!!! He is spoiled beyond belief with their credit cards and the endless things they get away with. The only punishment option they gave me is to take away his ipad, and now during the summer only some of the activities can be taken away. He throws tantrums constantly, usually lasting about an hour. he has no respect for me or his brother. He spits on his brother, hits and screams till his face is red with rage! and he cusses at me every time he gets mad. and he knows all the words... I am actually scared when he gets like this yesterday i came home with my arm bright red with scratches and him mother only asked him to apologize. its not just at home either, he acts this way in public as well. Most of the time there's NOTHING i can do. I try ignoring the behavior, he just continues. I've tried punishments, taking away devices, tv time (even though that's "not really a punishment" the parents are comfortable with), activities. I've tried being calm and assertive. I've tried a little yelling, which i don't like but sometimes its the only way to grab his attention. I don't want to get physical with him at all because i wouldn't want that to happen to me or my kids, and i don't want to accidentally hurt him. when he hangs on me and grabs me i try to just pull back but this usually hurts me because he simply wont let go. He cannot control his anger and its clear his parents let him have the control.
When i tell them what has happened they just have him say sorry, then its like nothing ever happened. most of the time because there's nothing i can do i resort to calling whichever parent will pick up their phone. when its the dad its always "Hey buddy, whats wrong---its okay, you're okay" and then he tells me "hes just having a rough day, i wont punish him on our time but its up to you during your time." this makes it hard for him to understand that what he is doing is wrong!!!! when the mom calls she is more stern with him but i get the same results.
I don't know what to do anymore. originally i was going to wait till the end of the summer, but after he was hitting me yesterday i want to quit by Thursday, my last day this week. I know its right to give two weeks notice and i plan on it but the mom works 10 minutes from home and is there CONSTANTLY! sometimes shes there from start to finish. and her kids are fully capable of behaving when shes there! But this makes it clear to me that i am not needed or respected. I drive almost 20 miles in and out of the city to watch these kids, and my car already has a LOT of miles on it so I'm always confused why they would want me to drive out there just to send me home 20 minutes later or why they don't pay me gas money for taking their kids everywhere.
How should I resign? I'm not great with face to face confrontation and what should I say? I cant really tell them i think your kids are crazy little brats!