So a little back ground if you may not know my story:
I live in CA and am a full time nanny (m-f) to 2 littles - A (3 ½, F) and C (will be 2 on Friday, M). 2-3 days a week I also watch their cousins - E (4, M) and H (23m, M). I have been with them for the last 22 months.
I'm a huge advocate of car seat safety and best practice.
Being in this field, I *highly* suggest that if you are not educated in this subject to look deeply into it. Join Carseat Safety or CSFTL on fb and/or find a CPST in your area to check your seats and educate you. It's such an important thing that seems to be taken way too lightly way too often.
Anyway, I've struggled with car seat issues with this family for the entire time I've worked for them. I wasn't as educated as I should have been when I started with them 2 years ago and was not aware that children should be rearfaced until a minimum of 2 years old. She was turned forward facing at 14 months and by the time I started with them (she was 21 months) she was already nearly 2 and I thought she was fine. She's since asked to be rear facing and has been doing so in my car for the last few months. C has already been forward facing in every other vehicle besides mine since he was about 16 months old and the comments from MB and DB about him being about to forward face when I drive are frequent. They obviously think it's ridiculous for me to let A rear face but think she wants to because of C and assume that when C is 2, I will turn him and her as well. TBH, I'm having major anxiety about him turning 2 and me loosing my excuse of it being against the law to have him forward facing. I'm not planning on turning him anytime soon in my car.. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if something happened to him and I could've prevented it. He's fairly small and has plenty of room still, it's not at all an inconvenience or anything.. I literally can think of no reason why I'd want him forward facing. I can see him better (and safer) in the mirror than I could having to turn to look back at him... thoughts?
On the 2-3 days/week I watch all 4 littles, they let me use their family Tahoe. Finally they've allowed me to keep the 2 extra car seats installed the back seat instead of taking them out and me having to reinstall them every time. They have the 4 year old in a backless booster, which I am absolutely not comfortable with. So I do have to take his booster out and swap it for a rearfacing car seat I use in my vehicle. They've had H forward facing in a harness booster since he was 1 but I've made it very clear I will not allow a child under 2 to forward face in any vehicle I am driving. So right now our set up is H rearfaced and E in a harness booster in the 3rd row, A in the harness booster that H typically uses and C rearfaced in my car seat I have to swap every day.
Once H finally turns 2 and my constant struggle is "over", I'm torn on what to do. This share has been off and on (as their other care is fairly unreliable) since I've been with A and C.. I don't really know them as well/have as strong of a bond and connection with them.. not that I don't want them to be safe but I don't feel as much anxiety with allowing H to forwardface.. he's a pretty big boy but I know that it's not about size, but maturity of their bones.. maybe in a couple months, I'll be ready to forward face C also... is it awful if I forward face H and not C? I would continue rear facing them both however once H turns 2, the extra car seat in the back will be turned forward by the parents.. is it ridiculous to switch it and then switch it back every day? I guess I was doing that with all 4 but it's been illegal not to this whole time.. my personal preference/goal has been until 3 (like what I assume I'd do with my own babies) but now that A has been comfortably rearfacing at 3 ½, I thought I'd try to make it to 4..
*and before anyone says anything haha I KNOW they're not my babies haha obviously.*
To me, car seat safety is not a parenting thing. It's a safety thing.
Anyone else struggling with this? It's something I'm super passionate about and a bit frustrated that both sets of parents are not at into it. They don't really have a problem with me doing it but it's not something they want to deal with. Which is somewhat understandable I guess... idk anyone have any advice or wanna share your story? I need some solidarity!
Sorry this ranty ramble is so long. Just don't have too many people to complain to about this sort of thing haha thanks for reading!