I'm sure every nanny has dealt with this at some point. I've never seen a child misbehave so badly. I'm currently a live in nanny to an awesome family. I care for 3 little ladies... 9 yrs, 3 yrs, 8 months. I have my hands full! I have the worst problems out of the 3 yr old. She throws these raging tantrums over the simplest things. The parents discipline her when they come home from work...usually around 6:30 in the evening. I dont find this method effective because she's being punished for something she did nearly 10 hours ago. How does she even know what she's in trouble for? I've expressed to the parents several times that I've tried different approaches. The child is extra smart, so she knows better. I just dont know why she does this. We stay on a daily schedule, including learning time and outdoors/indoors exercise and play. The situation is getting worse as I'm finding myself miserable. We have good days and bad ones. Some days she screams blood curdling screams for no reason. And these tantrums can last up to an hour if I don't try to coax her or let her have what she wants, which I try not to do. I've tried the good cop, bad cop routine. Incentives, treats, removing privileges.. you name it. Last week, I was so stressed, I had a panic attack while I was on a date with my fiance. I ended up in the emergency room. I have high blood pressure, as I am a diabetic. So my health has now come into play. I cannot continue to try to manage this child's behavior if it is gonna kill me. The parents are really nice but I think I have spoiled them.Some days I spend 14 - 16 hours with their children when my original agreement was to work from 7-5:30. Im too polite to say no.. but im starting to feel like I need to move on. I dont want to put them in a bad situation. .i would give a 30 day notice before I leave. But they rely so heavily on me and the kids love me. I also feel that the 3 year old should be evaluated. Please help! What should I do?!