I'd really just like some advice. I am a nanny and have worked for the same family for 4 years. I am taking care of my bosses daughter for a week while they are in France. I have done this before but this is the first time the grandmother has wanted to stay with me. I would like to know your advice on how to best deal with an overbearing grandmother. I understand she loves the little girl but she won't let her do anything on her own. She is 5 and her grandmother won't let her get dressed or pick her own clothes on her own, clean up after herself, and has been feeding her like a baby. These are all things this child normally does for herself. On top of this today the grandmother got mad at me and had a sort of temper tantrum because I aske the child to clean up her doll how and accessories before lunch. The little girl is use to cleaning up all toys before we eat, go somewhere, or when she is done okay with it and didn't get upset when I asked her. Part of the reason we do this is so toys don't get broken, or incase that's not the toy she wants to play with later after her lunch and quiet time. The grandmother said she could have done it later and got angry picked it up and put it in her room. I understand she the grandmother saw she was playing with it but it was going to be 2-3 hours before she could return to that toy because quiet time is after lunch and she sometimes takes a nap at that time. The thing that really bugged be was that she did all this infront of the child instead of just talking to me. I know I might just be over reacting or out of line but I would really like you opinion on this matter. Thank you.