I am a professional nanny that has a full time job 8:30-5:00 PM. I have previous nanny families that i have worked for in the past that still use me for babysitting and also pass my name along to friends when they are looking for babysitters. I was contacted by a friend of my old nanny family last week. We did what seemed like a basic over the phone interview. We talked about the time she needed, briefly discussed pay but did not make an official decision on what rate we would use. And i agreed to go meet her family the following weekend. I did so, and the mom who i had spoken to previously was not there but her husband and daughter (who i am supposed to babysit) were there. I had a wonderful meeting with them, and from everything i understood i would be babysitting for them today. I text the mom this morning around 11 AM just confirming that i would still be coming and mentioned that we had not yet discussed what pay would be and how they would be choosing to pay me. I still have not heard back from the mother. Discussing this with my mom who is also in the child care field, she recommended that i call her at 5:00 when i should be leaving my work to head straight to their house. If i can not reach her, then i have prepared a message to leave her stating that i cannot be there this evening when i cannot confirm the job in advanced and that i take babysitting as an extension of my professional services. I could understand if i were a high school student who did this to make extra money for fun, but i am providing a much greater service than that, and my time is valuable. Is this terrible of me? Am i taking all the precautions i need to before stating i will not be there? what would you all do?